27 February 2006 – Fear & Fetish

Question

I have been watching the news and reading all the papers about the ‘bird flu’ virus that seems to be creeping closer and closer to affect my family and I am scared stiff. I cannot stop thinking of the danger that my family may be in. I have stopped buying eggs, poultry and I have taken down the bird feeders in the garden but I am still worried in case my children come into contact with ‘birds’ or let them spend time with friends in case their parents are not as vigilant as I am.  I was worried sick about the SARS virus happening also.
Sally Ann – Cardiff

Answer:

What you are doing is admirable. What you could also do is wrap them up in cotton wool keeping them at home, stop them from watching TV in case they pick up on your fear.  No don’t do that, you have a huge fear of something ‘bad’ happening to you and your family and that needs to be treated quickly otherwise it will grow to a total phobia. See a good therapist and I would recommend someone who is a member of a recognised association and get help quickly before your fear gets any worse.

Good and bad things happen in life because that is life and because we are human we can get concerned about family and friends and ‘bad’ things happening to them. There is no point worrying about everyday life or major happenings as we would all be rolled up in a ball somewhere not living. Trust me.  When a worry takes over then sort it quickly and enjoy everything that you have around you NOW. Thought Field Therapy is great for getting rid of anxieties and Hypnosis for helping you to move forward and feeling happier about you and your future.

Question

I get turned on sexually by something unusual and I cannot tell anyone I am so embarrassed in case I am found out. I am frightened to have a steady girlfriend in case she laughs and tells people. This problem is getting worse and I keep thinking about it all the time. What can I do?
David – Swansea

Answer:

Firstly well done for being so brave by taking a step towards getting help, it sounds like you are suffering from a fetish. Simply explained a phobia is something you hate too much and a fetish is something you love too much, either can be detrimental to your happiness.

Fetishes have been around for as long as phobias but are generally less discussed as there is also a ‘fear of being found out. The Duke of Windsor, now deceased, was reported as having a fetish about gloves, whether this is true or not I don’t know but I do know that a fetish can be triggered from early childhood or teens and it can be resolved with using TFT.  TFT can get rid of the fetish side as well as getting rid of all the fear aspect.

David take one more step and pick up the phone to get help to get rid of your problem so you can start living happily.